i met my wife 12 years ago. it was perfect we were best friends. we loved each other. she wanted a child but i had a 2 children from a very bad marriage that i had custody of. both of my children were used by my ex wife to try to get back at me. this abuse went on for several years and i hated the life that my children had been put through. So when my new wife wanted a child I explained all this to her. And explained how i would not put another child through what my other kids had went through. Well after a few years went by I understood what my wife needed and why she wanted a child. Our relationship had been great. We didnt do anything that didnt involve each other.My life was so great This was the happiest time of my life. In 2002 we had a beautiful daughter she means everything to me. We were so happy. Then as she got older it was hard for us to have the privacy that we had been used to, so we werent as intimate as we were. Then in the summer of 2005 I noticed that she had 59 calls in one month to a number that i reconized as a friend of mine. As was never jealous i would trust her with all my heart and I found this by checking for something else. I had never looked at any of her phone bills before. When I questioned her about this she told me it was nothing and that they were just friends. I believed her because I thought our relationship was very strong and I didnt believe she was the time person that would ever have an affair. So things went on until November 2005, on that day she had been going to the gym that another friend of mine owned. Her mother worked there and she told me she was going there to work out and visit her mother because this was the only time she got to see her. On this paticular day I went to the gym to pick her up to go somewhere with me. Upon my arrival her truck was there but she wasn,t in the gym. He also owned a tanning salon next door but it was closed. I went to leave and noticed the owners truck hid behind the building. My worst nightmare was about to begin I knocked on the front door and back door for about 15 to 20 minutes before they finally came out. My wife told me that he was just letting her tan while he worked on the dryer. I didnt beleive her but i let it go holping it would stop now. He even came to my house and told me that his marriage was strong but that my marriage must have problems if i thought they were doing something. Well i let it go hoping that maybe i was wrong and that maybe i was hust jumping to conclusions. Then in May 2006 I got a call from a another cell phone company that wanted a payment on a phone that I didnt know anything about. when i asked my wife about it she stated it was her friends that didnt want her husband to know. Then in june 2006 The friday before fathers day i heard a recording of my wife telling a guy that works for me that she loved him and calling him sweetheart. Thisn was the worst day of my life. I packed my things and left for a few hours trying to figure out what i had done or what had happened. I ended up talking to her and coming back home. and she said that she would never do this again. She admitted to having an affair with the 2 other guys. So now I know she has had an affair with 3 guys that I know of. She still claims that it was no sex involved but I don't beleive her. It has now been a little over a month and she says she is happier that she has ever been. The problem is that im not happy. I have never had an affair or have never even thought of having one. So I dont understand how someone can do this to someone they love and care about. I cant forget I constantly think of this and there hasn't been a day go by that I dont get somewhere and cry. I don't know what to do now. I don't want a divorce because of my daughter, but I don't want to live my life wandering who she is seeing now. I really need help. On fathers day I came very close to suicide but i didnt because of my daughter. I need help I leave in rural area and dont have much access to get help so thayts why I'm here.
