I'm glad I learned early on In DBing to vent my anger here and with friends rather then at my "WAW"
So I decided I would have supper ready regardless of if she wanted it or not...
It was really nice she got there a bit early and I told her she was getting supper weather she liked it or not she smiled and said well it smells very good
We chatted while I made supper... we hugged each other a bunch and laughed at each other... it was REALLY nice
I told her no matter what happens her and I are “family” she replied more then family…
Her summer Job now has the chance to become a higher paying Long Term Job which in a year can develop into the trade she took her certificate for in School over the past year. Which means BIG money but she needs to stay in the local area (excellent)
She has been approved for her own mortgage and she was very excited at the prospect of the increase in pay to get a larger mortgage
I added well since you have already been approved and we KNOW you can get one and pay for it on your own… I would be willing to help you get a bigger one so you could get a nicer house which is better for you and the kids.
She seemed to like that..
Her BF has commented that he doesn’t like her schedule for work makes it hard for him to plan stuff together… I commented its pretty weird that he is already “pushing” the live together thing…
She replied well he didn’t really push it she said… I replied you said he was like me right…? I said well if I said that it has to be rolling around in his head a whole bunch… he wont like the long distance relationship thing for to long…
She said… he seems ok with it now… and I maybe would move there… I wont take the kids of course… I replied you would only see them every other weekend… wow thing about how that would feel…
She looked a little sad and said hmmm
I said well I know you like your schedule this way and I like it to its nice for the Kids and for me… She replied I do to I like having the bunch of days off in a row its nice
It was a nice evening I told her I would like to do this when we switch the kids off its nice for me to have the company… She said maybe…
She headed out we hugged once more…
She seemed tired and kind of messed up between him and I… which is exactly what I’m going for..
So I have decided I’m going to keep Dbing but at the same time I’m going to keep seeing other people myself…
I think she will go for the Job her, which will mess with the “BF” and put pressure on them (bonus)
I am holding out little hope we can work things out… she sees lots of potential with this guy
But…
I believe the LD relationship thing will implode at some point and when it does…
Maybe I will be there and we will see what happens
