Quote: Ok, so I haven’t quite elevated myself to the level of Corri enlightenment, but I’m working towards it.
I don't like zingers, Cobra. They hurt.
Zingers hurt? Really? Your supposed to eat them, not throw them. Personally I prefer them over twinkies or cupcakes, BUT only with a glass of ice cold milk.
Corri did the same thing here that I did when HP commented on my thread about being perfect. I took it as a poke instead of a compliment. Personalized. Cobra the biggest thing I see you need to work on is pyschoanalzing your W. Every F here has remarked to you about it. You have a lot of knowledge about it, use it to empower yourself, and understand others fear's etc, instead of using it to overpower.
If your W does something specific that you find unacceptable, Keep it simple... Just tell her to STOP. There are a thousand ways to say NO, and Stop. Exert your authority. You dont have to explain to her why she needs to stop. Thats logicalling. Thats justifying and makes it a should, which is a big freaking hole in your boundaries. There is no SHOULD in boundaries. OCD is mostly about fear and lack of control. The more boundaries you give her the less she will have need for the soothing of her OCD. Begause she is so high energy and you are not, the more reason for your boundaries to be many and done as efficiently as possible. That will demonstrate strong to her. It will cause lots of conflict. IF you want her to need you, then stop expecting her to lose -and trying to cure her of- her emotionality. Just remove its affect on you.
