Well, quite honestly, I wasn't sure how to take it. And if I were in old-Corri mode, I may not haven given it a second thought... and since we lack body language, tone and facial expression... I thought, well... if this IS a zinger... I'll bring it up, deal with it... if it was nothing more than joshing, he'll tell me and we can let it go. If it WAS a zinger, then we can deal with it and let it go.
So. It's gone.
Quote: Defining these understood limits of propriety and respect is a woman thing, IMO.
Interesting. I'd just call it communicating.
Quote: I think women tend to run scared with strangers and such walls give comfort so they feel safe to bond.
Sweety, I don't think I have EVER run scared of you or anyone else. If anything, I have tended to opt for way more aggression than needed, and I think everyone here would nod their head in agreement.
For example. When I go overboard on you... you come roaring back at me. When I go overboard on HD, he says 'ouch,' or he teases me about my pointy witch shoes... When I go overboard on one of the HD ladies, they say..."Corri, I hear you, but knock it off, you don't have to be so harsh."
So. Given our past communication style, I really was trying not to come roaring back at you, but to just try to clear up a potential misunderstanding. That may be a female thing, but in my experience, far better to take the time to realize a non-issue than to assume.... kwis?
Quote: Men do not have such insecurity and bond by encroaching on and testing each other, just like boys who wrestle. If a man were to make the same request as yours, he might very likely be typecast as a “girly man.”
Yeah... but you need to remember. I'm not a man, even if I've come across that way in my communication. I'm correcting my ways... or trying to. Hence your perplextion and confusion.
I'm not changing back to the old Corri just so you can feel better about how YOU communicate with other men. You are dealing with a woman, not a man. Pay attention. And stop putting down the female gender because we DON'T communicate like guys do. Of course we don't. We weren't meant to.
And no, you are not minimizing my hurt. You are minimizing my gender... (reference your 'girly' man comment. There is nothing wrong with a man being vulnerable and gentle at times.) So I'm not so sure that I'm the one not feeling safe here....
And stop putting down the female gender because we DON'T communicate like guys do. Of course we don't. We weren't meant to.