Girl Help

[cinemanymph]

Corri said

the experience of true power begins when you realize that nothing anyone does is ever because of YOU. Everyone does what they do because of them

I think you are absolutely right, but this is something a person has to internalize (barring narcissism) as a response to everything everyone else is doing. Also admission that I don't have any power over anything anyone else does. I can certainly influence, but the final decision lies with the recipient of that influence. Another slant on the giving up power to get power paradigm.

When an HD partner says that their LD partner has all the power and control over the sex life... how is that a dominion (power) play on the part of the HD?

Indicating that the LD spouse does not live up to their former glory or to the current HD expectations goes for the emotional jugular, confirming the LD stance that there is fundamentally something wrong. I'm just playing with this concept but, to submit to HD is the ultimate in being out of control and the LD partner is exerting control by short circuiting it. Outwardly the HD partner is angry and feeling rejected, but inwardly is relieved. I hypothesize that, in some respects, that the HD partner is just as terrified of intimacy as the LD partner. Control is the power play here.

Does an HD partner really want an insatiable spouse? It seems to me a valid question to ponder. In your wildest dreams, what kind of sexual response would your partner have? Do you think you could keep up with those demands IRL?

I think Jenny said in her thread, to dream up the best partner and then apply those attributes to yourself. Methinks I'll be startin' there.