I read the story and felt anger, sympathy, puzzled, and many other things. Sorry you had to go through this.
I worked in a delinquent-boys group home and heard similar stories, some from the victimized boys (mostly their files) and some from case files where the boy was the perpetrator. For the most part, they didn't want anyone to know what happened or what they did.
Sad from both sides as many of the perpetrators were also victimized, but no reason for the perpetrators to recommit the crime on someone else.
I worked with a lady in the group-home that was abused by her step-dad. She told her mother, but her mother didn't do anything about it.
The main thing I wonder is, where do these two thoughts come from, that the victim has to endure the trauma, or a parent won't protect the victim.
No answer is required Corri. I read some of the literature and still have a difficult time with the conclusions.
Maybe I did a similar thing when I crashed my bike and had a slight brain concussion. All I was worried about was not catching he!! for ripping up my new pants and getting blood everywhere. I wanted to rinse off my face with the hose and hoped no one would see me go in the house. A much lessor event than yours, maybe it fits a pattern.
I am saying, kids avoid things when they should be more open about things. Maybe that is one way a kids feel when s/he thinks they have little control of life and has to save what little they have.
Let me repeat what CN said
"OMG Corri, I weep for the child this happened to and celebrate the woman who overcame it. You are amazing."
