I hear you, and I do agree with you to an extent. But like GEL says... the only thing you can really do is bring things to awareness... 'pushing,' I think, if done too liberally, creates more problems than they solve.
AND... there are different ways to 'push.' I've never responded well to manipulation and negative criticism. I can handle constructive criticism in doses, spaced apart... but I normally respond MUCH better to SUBTLE encouragement and confidence building. Once I gain momentum, the rewards then become their own motivator.
Chrome:
It may not be that your wife hates women... but there could be some very serious resentment issues over how she views some of her wifely 'roles.' I know a number of my girlfriends don't hate being female, per se... but they do resent the hell out of many of their 'wifely' duties.
I think you also made a good point about your W growing up. I don't know her... just from my own experience, there is a HUGE difference between being a 'girl' and stuck in that mental framework of fantasies and entitlement issues and how things are 'supposed' to be... and being a woman.
I don't know what to tell you, because there isn't anything YOU can do, per se. Hence... part of the reason for the state of your M. But you know that far better than I do.
