Quote: I... found BF's Alpha Male discussion helpful, not because I buy the concept "hook, line and sinker" but because it made me think about my own personal version of "sexism" or what I consider "manly" in a non-judgmental way. Thinking about what I consider to be "manly" naturally leads to considering what "I" consider to be "feminine".
It wasn't his alpha male discussion, for me... it was his elusive comments about male/female attraction, and how that works, exactly. He can certainly tell the guys how to beef up his maleness to increase the female attraction... but he never really went into the female side of that... hence... my exploration of it. And there really, really, really IS something to it.
Quote: I think if you try to directly make yourself more feminine, you might make the mistake of just trying to make yourself into a "type" that our culture accepts as more feminine.
Hmmm. I'm not trying to make myself 'more' anything... rather... I am exploring unchartered territory within myself. Kind of like being 'left' brain all my life, and now wanting to develop my 'right' brain capabilities... eh?
Quote: "She keeps 'falling in love' with unsuitable men because she doesn't really like herself.". I think this is kind of what your recent revelation has been telling you. Corri doesn't need to be Cory or compete with Cory or date Cory. Corri at her best is free to date and/or mate all around the wheel of types. Anyone from Architect Alan to Poet Pete to Rocker Rick to Zookeeper Zeb.
Well. Maybe. Sorta. Kinda. Not really. Ever had 'your colors' done, Mo? Some lady tells you if you have blue undertones to your skin, or yellow undertones to your skin... she looks at your hair color, your eye color... then pegs you as a winter/spring/summer/fall type coloring person? And lo and behold... you start buying those kinds of colors of clothes, make-up, etc., your whole look just... changes... not necessarily because of the cut of the clothes, or the types of the clothes, but just because you are now pursuing things that 'enhance' your natural coloring, rather than compete with it...
that's kind of what I've done here.... I'm finding behaviors, attitudes, etc., that enhance my natural state of being, rather than compete with my natural state of being. That doesn't mean I start acting 'dumb' because I now like to take bubble baths and paint my nails, shop, etc. That doesn't mean I start losing games on purpose, or stop being my natural spunky self. It just means that how I go about doing those things might be slightly different... not because I want to manipulate someone, but because I feel better about who I am and how I express her within my own framework... does that make any sense?
Btw, I like the Cute Corporate Corri doll concept. I'll include a copule 'manuals' on boundaries, relationships and m/f attraction... make a few cool million, retire to the grand caymons... and fly all my Sisters from the SSM down to live with me on the beach.
