Cobra- You said something very smart to me once that I think you should say to your own wife. Something along the lines of "You are still angry at me because of incident X because you fear that I will repeat my behavior during incident X in the future. There is no way that I can 100%reassure you that I will never behave in that way in the future BUT you can 100% reassure yourself that you have grown as a person to the extent that you will never again exhibit the behavior that you did during incident X so you can be absolutely confident that incident X will never occur again. You can't change my buttons but you can change your own or at least render them harder to push."
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
