What a lovely post. It is so interesting how being feminine and our notion of that plays into the way we negotiate relationships. I, of course, have my own whole story that goes with this topic but I mainly popped on to say that you, Corri, are the real deal - a "whole" person with masculine and feminine attributes and I am thrilled to see you expressing both. You can credit your bf if you like, but, in the end it is you who freed yourself to be all of who you are.