OOOHHHHHHH... THAT kind of info... oh. Well. Yeah, I suppose y'all would be wondering just what has been up with me, DUH. I've purposely NOT talked about any of it.
Hmmm. Well, where to start. I heard rumors my ex was dating... but I think those are rumors. After the split, he bought a house about 1/2 mile from me, moved his mother in with him, and went about the business of living his life. We have joint custody of our kids, which I don't really like, but that is what the kids want, and they seem to have adjusted amazingly well to it.
xH and I talk about the kids. Period. And when we talk about the kids, we get along fine. We work very hard at being consistent from house to house, and everything involving the kids. But our kids were never our problem. You bring in up any other topic that is remotely controversial, like say the weather... and off we go. So we don't go there.
I have no idea what he does during his day (well, I do, just KNOWING him like I do). I wish him well, I wish for his happiness, I hope like no tomorrow that he finds someone with whom he can be happy, but other than that, I am done. It is how I know and continue to know, that I am done.
Right now, yes, I am dating someone. I call it 'field study,' and while on the surface that may sound rather cold, I also know that I am in NO CONDITION, am not even remotely close to having a real R. I've discovered some pretty flipping amazing things about msyelf, and I am having fun. I'm being 'spoiled,' as much as I will allow... I've also discovered that the commercial about Yahoo Personals and Match.com are a load of sh!t. Been there, done that, no THANK YOU.
I live in a small town. A very small town. Everyone knows everyone, and my xH and I were the hot topic of convo for quite some time. So I dropped off the radar. I keep my personal life to myself. I go out... with my girlfriends, and I test out all this stuff I"m learning about attraction and what it means to be a woman (as opposed to being a 'girl,"), and combined with all I've learned here, help of some friends, and all the flipping works I did prior to D... I'm a pretty intimidating woman. <giggle>
Now I'm crashing a bit. This whole 'becoming human again,' thing can really kick your azz at times. But, it's a good azz kicking and I need it. My friend said to me recently, "you have no idea what an amazing woman I am looking at, and how more amazing it is to watch her come out.' I don't think he was talking about my looks.
Now I'm getting slightly uncomfy... sharing all this stuff. Okay. 'nuff for now. Feel free to ask questions.
