Well…I’m having to work hard to come up with 180s. One of the things I have done is to start telling her how I really feel about situations. When she has spent the night at OM’s, I no longer just put my head down and keep going…if she asks “What’s wrong” I say “You just spent the night with another man and I’m pissed”. So…in general I’m just being a little more “manly” and “forceful” when discussing situations. That’s something I didn’t do before. I’m spending lots of time with D7…the last two weekends, we spent all afternoon/night on Friday and all day Sunday together, just the two of us. I’ve been out a couple of times by myself, something I’ve never done before. I’m still working out a lot, but I had started that before “the bomb”, so I don’t really think you can call that a 180. I did so many 180s before, it is just hard to come up with obvious ones.
The W is funny…now she says when we met she thinks she was looking for someone to give her love and attention and to care for her. She needed that to feel good about herself, but she thinks she overlooked the fact that we weren’t compatible. Typical “we got together for the wrong reasons” logic. I said, “ I think we’re pretty darn compatible now”…she said “I just think we’ve learned to get along and like the same things”…duh…am I missing something??? I know she has looked at the zodiac crap that says she and OM (Gemini & Leo) are “made” for each other, whereas she and I (Gemini & Pices) are a tough sell. Of course…I pointed out that according to the Chinese zodiac, she and I are the most compatible you can get (Ox and Cock…and yes, I’m the Cock). What a trip.
Yesterday the W had to go see the Army investigator for an interview. She was pretty upset. I think she is starting to have friction with OM over his handling of the sych. OM has basically “lawyered up” as opposed to just coming clean and telling the whole truth about their affair. My W also did not disclose any info. OM is not making any moves to put in retirement paperwork, etc. etc. W says he’s not doing these things because he’s “in his comfort zone and is apprehensive about starting a new life”….typical selfish MLC attitude. I told here that if OM drags this whole affair into a jury by court marital trial, I would be highly pissed off. Basically, he could avoid that by just coming clean, but he apparently is worried about his reputation.
So…the W is now seriously thinking of leaving. She may go back to the US and live with her parents for awhile, and then look for a job. She says if I can work out the details, it might be possible for D7 to stay with me. I don’t know what this means for relationship with OM…he can’t leave here until next summer. I told her we needed to sit down when we had time and talk this over. She had not discussed this with OM, so there is no telling what will happen next. I will be out of town for the next 3.5 weeks, so she will be alone with D7 and can’t go see the OM…at least not the way she does now. We’ll see what happens…
