Yep…I’m still here. W and D7 have been back for a couple of weeks now, and things are still touch and go. I’m spending lots of time with D7, so that is good….that is still the main purpose for them coming back and is still my #1 goal. W is still determined, or, as she says, “resolved”, to D me and then jump into a serious relationship, if not a marriage, with OM. She spends every 2nd or 3rd night with OM. She has stated to me that there is “no hope” for us, and that our M is definitely over…with or without OM. I try to give her space and detach…we still go out for family dinners once or twice a week, and there are weekend activities. She has apparently lost her job in the OM’s hospital, and OM is now under an informal military investigation. What exactly the investigation is about hasn’t been disclosed…it could be just to see if he exercised undue influence when she was hired for the job, or it could be the whole adultery issue. If it is the adultery issue, he could very well be issued an official “no contact” order…that would mean they couldn’t communicate at all until he is D’ed or retired from the military. I’m not sure if that would be an advantage or disadvantage. The W and I are still friendly…maybe even very friendly at times. She still seems down in the dumps a lot. She surfed the web for divorce lawyers, but says she hasn’t contacted one. She bought a book called “The Good Divorce” and is reading it…she doesn’t think I saw her stuff it in her backpack. She is constantly checking for emails or IMs from the OM, even though she told me she “is hardly ever on the email”. I guess “hardly ever” means the first thing you do in the morning and the last thing you do at night…oh well…not much I can do there. Starting the week of 11 Sep, I will be pretty much out of town for the rest of Sep…that means she will be at home with D7 and unable to spend nights with OM. Now that this investigation thing is on-going, I also don’t think he will be slipping away from work to meet her during the day, either. One of my TDYs is back to the US…I took advantage and bought a ticket to see one of our favorite bands (Live, in Dallas). She almost turned visibly green. I said, “Don’t worry…I’m sure you’ll have plenty of opportunities to go to concerts, since the OM likes this kind of music so much…” Of course, that is not the OM’s flavor of music at all…that comment got a half smile out of her. It is pretty hard here in this small community where everybody…and I do mean EVERYBODY pretty much knows what is going on. I think my W is pretty much being either ignored or scorned….I have no idea what folks think of me. By Christmas I should know my next assignment…we’ll see what happens. I have added about 40 lbs to my bench press since this thing started…so, in the end, I may just beat the crap out of OM and be done with it (just kidding).
