Yeah…the longer this goes on, the more irrational things I hear and see. I think if you peruse the other threads around here, the stories are pretty darn similar. When my W and I first met, she told me she really had a thing about people who cheated…this probably stemmed from the fact that her most recent boyfriend/almost fiancé cheated on her, which she found out after they broke up. Now…well…I guess they try to rationalize their deeds in some way so as not to have to take the blame for all the destruction they’ve caused. Apparently the guy she’s involved with is a master at this…he even told his W that “God told him he was doing the right thing…” What a trip. I haven’t been a bad H, and my W isn’t trying to deflect her guilt on me…so it is all hitting her square in the face. I’ve never seen W as depressed as she was after the church incident, and she still hasn’t fully recovered. We all went out for a nice family dinner last night and had a great time. My D7 spent a lot of time in the playground with the owner’s grandkids (it is a little more laid back around here) and the W and I had some good conversation. I asked her if she was feeling better, and she said “no”…she could find 2-3 hours each day to take her mind off this terrible sych, but the rest of the time sucked. I said “I thought you were in love…shouldn’t that make you happy?” She said “Yes, it does…but when I’m with him and you know it, it makes me guilty…and when I’m home with you I feel guilty, too…” So…I don’t know what to do right now except keep plugging. I’m being nice, showing her I still care, but keeping some distance. She has spent the last 2 nights at OMs…even though she does come home to the couch around 0200. I will be out of town a lot in the coming month, so she won’t be able to do that...we'll see how that plays out.
