Forgot to mention, I love the fact that your W feels she can't go to church anymore because she feels too guilty. Her answer to dealing with that guilt is to stop going to church! That works. Anyone who is not suffering from the WAW mentality might think that if the values you've lived your life by now conflict with the path you are now choosing then maybe you should take a look at that path again. Her answer, shut those values out! It truly is amazing. When I mentioned the moral aspect of cheating to my W (who is doing so) she said "what is morality anyway. People just twist things into whatever they want to do anyway" duh, kind of like you're doing dear! She then told me "it was once moral to lynch black people"! My response (very un-DBlike) was "you really are nuts, aren't you". Sometimes you just got to let it out! But I guess the best thing to do is try not to get too caught up in the inanity of their thinking, oh but I forgot, they are following the heart, not the mind. I guess that trail of pain they are leaving behind them is worth all the bliss they are now enjoying ...NOT. It seems the whole thing is just a lose lose situation. For the life of me I don't see any winners when the dust settles. I think you once asked "am I the only sane one here?" Sometimes it sure feels that way, doesn't it. Just thought I would lay this little rant on you, hope you liked it even if it wasn't very helpful!!!
