I haven’t posted for awhile so I thought I’d put up a little update. W has been at her parent’s house in FLA with D7 since 29 Jul. They are coming home this Friday. We spoke on the phone for the first time in about 10 days last Monday. In the past four years, I think that is the longest we’ve ever gone without speaking or emailing. All the beans have been spilled to her mother and father…both of them are upset. My MIL seems more unhappy with W, whereas FIL is also upset but is trying to look after W’s and D7’s best interest. FIL called me one night and explained his feelings and outlook on the situation…W does not know he talked to me. He told me that apparently there was a plan for the W to see an attorney while she was in FLA (we were married there), but she hasn’t done it so far. I spoke to her a few days ago ( we had to talk about the house we are renting out in FLA, stuff for D7’s school, etc. etc.). Something came up, I can’t remember exactly what, and she seemed hesitate to talk about it. She said, “Well…I’m a little uncomfortable talking about those type things since our whole relationship is changing”. I said, “Yeah…I guess it is changing”. To that she replied, “What? I thought that was a known thing…”. I then told her it might be “known”, but that I didn’t like it. I then told her I was going to email her a letter and tell her some things. She said OK…she hoped I wouldn’t hold anything back and to would just rip into her if it made me feel better. I told her it wasn’t that kind of letter, to which she responded, “What?...I thought you had given up on me…”. I’m not sure what that meant, but it does somewhat confirm the vibe I’ve been getting that she my have interpreted my detaching as acceptance and moving on rather than just giving her space. I don’t want to pursue or beg her, but I also want her to know that I still want her and this marriage. The letter, which I sent last night, should clear that issue up. I told her we could talk about the letter, or not. Then she asked me to send it earlier rather than latter, so she could have a chance to respond by email if she wanted. We’ll see what happens. I will be away on business (TDY) several times in Sep, so she will have to stay with D7. OM is not supposed to be around D7. W is also planning on auditioning for another local play…all female cast this time, but I’m positive that OM will be over there volunteering all he can. OM is now alone…his W and 4 kids left for the States last week, and they don’t plan to come back. I’m still seeing the MC by myself…I don’t know if W is planning to continue her sessions, although I know MIL has encouraged her to do so. OM quit going to the MC (same MC for both couples, if you can believe it!)….he said it was all hogwash. I’m still fighting the urge to toss OM off the top of his office building…I know the issue is between W and me, but I think it would make me feel much better for a little while…at least until the MPs show up. We’ll see how this plays out…
