I know what you are saying. Honestly, it is mainly my MIL who was wanting to disuss the sych with me. We have had two phone conversations. At the end of both I stressed very strongly that she could not tell W that we had talked. I have not talked to FIL in person, but he told MIL that my W would be very upset if she knew we were discussing the sych. I basically told MIL at end of last convo that we probably shouldn't have any more discussion for awhile.
