Well...OM's W stopped by my house a couple of nights ago. She wanted to tell me that she and her 4 kids are headed back to the US...and they don't plan to come back. My W is due back with D7 in a little over a week. I wonder how this situation will play out? As I think I mentioned, W's parents are now in the know. They are not happy about the sych, especially MIL. Of course, they will have little to no impact. MIL told me she asked W what made her think OM was different from any of her other relationships...W replied it was "becasue of the way I feel". Yeah...she felt the same way about me 8 yrs ago. W keeps saying things that are totally irrational. I think most of this is stuff she's getting from OM. For example, after dropping the bomb a month ago, OM wanted his W to leave immediately. When she didn't do it, my W was highly critical of her for not removing the 4 kids from the situation. Now that she is going, W is afraid she will "try to turn OM's sister against him, and then OM won't have anybody on his side" (Apparently OM's sister lives very close to OM W's parents in the States). Of course, OM has cut off contact with his family, cause they all keep telling him he has lost it. This is complete crazy talk from my W...if this were anybody else but OM, she'd be spitting on him for walking out on 4 kids. Intead, he twists everything and blames it on his W, and my W eats it up. I think aliens have taken her.
I am worried that OM appears to be getting more reckless with this sych. My W took a job in the hospital he runs, but has not started yet. Both her father and I advised against it (seperately), but she did it anyway. The job is in a different area of the hospital, away from OM's office. But hold the phone...another job just opened up in the very office where OM works (HQ section). OM tried to convice his W to take the job my W just took so my W can take the other job and work with him on a daily basis. He says..."what...its just a job". He is looney...and if my W even considers this proposal, I'll know she is completely off her rocker.
Apparently the A is still white hot...lots of sex talk, romance talk, and plans for a future life (this coming from OM's W). It will definately be hard when W and D7 get back. My plan is to basically ignore W and let her do her thing while spending as much time as possible with D7.
Now that the shock has worn off and the W has been gone for two weeks, I'm starting to really feel angry at her. She has destroyed our family and helped destroy another. What really hurts the most is that after the last A she promised she would let me know that something was wrong long before anything happened...I had bulit up trust in her, and she just completely crushed it. Plus...I know it is all for nothing, as I can see her relationship patter repeating itself all over. MIL feels it might not be a bad idea to communicate this anger to W, in a calm manner of course. I'm going to see the MC tomorrow, and I plan to ask him about that CoA.
