...into these situations. I'm not asking because I'm plotting to get the in-laws "on my side". My W & D7 are at my in-laws for several weeks (pre-planned trip prior to bomb). Last night I called to talk to D7 and ran smack into my upset MIL. The W spilled the whole story to her. Apparently MIL got the same story I got...the feelings never came back, and now I love OM. MIL and FIL are upset, seem to think W may be making a mistake, and they are unhappy about the affair (I said "you are certainly preaching to the choir"). MIL says this is a continuing pattern with W, W has always had problems with relationships, and she feels W needs to "grow up". I simply told MIL that I still loved W, did not want a D, and that I was primarily worried about D7. However, I also said the decision is up to W and there's not much I can do right now. I have a very good relationship with in-laws, but I have no plan to discuss this with them again, or to try and influence them. In laws celebrate thier 35 anniversary next month. They went through 24 years of a military career and MIL is a recovering alcoholic, so they know a little something about marriage issues.
What experiences have others had with this? Could the in-laws disapproval of the sych drive W further away? My W and MIL have a close, but sometimes hot and cold relationship.
