I certainly do not plan to push her, but as of right now it doesn't look like I need to anyway. I KNOW that she realizes something is going on with her. She has periodically told me this for years. I'm pretty sure she will continue to see the counselor when she gets home, but if she doesn't I'm not going to bring it up. I am trying to "recaputure" some of things I was doing when we first met. I read through some of our old "love letters" and the thing that struck me was the way she said she felt so comfortable with me and how she felt she could tell me anything. Somewhere along the way we lost that, and I think it was a major factor in our first near D experience. After that, I've been walking on egg shells for 4 years, trying not to push her, and we haven't communicated like two people in love should. We've actually talked more the since "the bomb" than we have in a long time. So...I'm doing the rope-a-dope and hanging on....not many other options at this point.