I know it's so tempting to try and "fix" her (COA meetings, MC) but tread with care. If she continually gets the message from you that she is the problem, she will bolt. Maybe try to validate her feelings for her rather than fix things. That's a toughie, I know. We guys are the fixers! Give us a problem and we'll fix it. Sometimes fixing it means to sit back a bit and give it some breathing space. My W always said "Oh, I guess I'm the problem then, I just need to get fixed and everything will be OK, right?" My attempts to make her see "the right way" to look at the situation was indeed the wrong way to reach her. It is so hard cuz you just want to shake her and say "For God sake, can't you see! It's so obvious." But they can't and we CAN'T make them see. Remember, (I'm into quotes today) "the best thing you can do when it's raining is let it rain". Finally, you are so right to look to your daughter right now. That is a love that will last forever so make it grow. Take care of yourself, you deserve the best cuz you are still a hero! Only a hero would hang in there for his kid. That's you!
