Yes...in hindsight I guess our talks before she left weren't terrible...not good, just not terrible. Other than an email to let me know she arrived safely, I haven't heard from her since she left. That's not unexpected. I do not plan to specifically contact her, even though I will certainly speak to her when I call to talk to D7. One thing I forgot to mention earlier is that when the W gets back she is taking a new job in the post hospital...which is where the OM works (hell...he's the Deputy Commander!!). Since there a legal issues involved (technically, adultry is a crime in the military) I told her I didn't think this was such a good idea. She knows that, but the problem is there are very few jobs around here, and the hospital job is the best one available at the moment. She thinks that since her work area will be well off the OM's beaten path at work, it will not be a problem. I bet her a six-pack that OM will show up "off the beaten path" and at her desk within 2 days of her being on the job. So be it; if he is dumb enough to do that and get his rear in a crack, let him have at it. I know she wants to start working so she can be independent and function on her own if/when the D finally comes around. We did set some ground rules before she left. I told her in no way did I want the OM around my D7 until both of them were single. She readily agreed. As for my gameplan...it is going to be pretty simple...spend as much quality time with my D7 as possible, continue to be upbeat and positive, try to recapture some of the things I was doing when we first met, and generally just give her space (and rope). I'm also going to encourage her to continue MC and I hope I can get her to some adult children of alcoholics meetings. Oh...and pray a lot....
