Glad to hear from you. Sounds like you did great! While she's gone sit back for a minute and just think about what she said. When you asked how things would be dif with the OM she said "I love him, I hope that things work out". What an incredible plan, boy she's got it all worked out doesn't she Have a real good belly laugh! Because if this wasn't real life it would be damn funny. It's another amazing example of the mindset of the cheating spouse. Obviously she still does care about you because all those things she said e/g call me if you need to talk etc. those are caring statements, they do mean something . Again, while she's gone re-read DB and/or DR and get your gameplan in shape. This has just begun. Hang tight. Be strong! You can do this.