My W left this Sat for a previously scheduled trip back to the US. She is going to get our D7 who is staying with my W's parents. They will be back on 17 Aug. Before she left, the W initiated a R talk with me. I did my best to validate. I also told her I did not think we had a "bad" marriage, but that I knew she was searching for something. Then discussion turned to OM. I told her I thought OM was having big-time MLC and turning his back on his kids. (She tells me his teenagers won't talk to him these days...OM canceld a trip to Rome with his S16 and spent time with my W). I fully expected to have this thrown back in my face, but she didn't do it. OM has her fully convinced that his W is a raving nut, but there are significant differences in what OM is telling my W and what OM's W told me. I did not relay any of this to my W. She acknowledged our marriage wasn't "bad", but what were we supposed to do...go on forever as friends, roomates, co-parents? Like a dummy I asked her what she expected from relationship with OM. Of course, she took that emotional 2X4 and swacked me with "I love him, and I hope our relationship works out". That night I had cooked a great dinner, and we watched a movie (until 1000 when she had to run out to take the nightly cell call). Now things get better. She came out and admitted she needed the car the next day to meet and spend time with OM. I said nothing, let her go. I fully expected her to be gone until late, but she came back as I was finishing dinner, we had pleasant convo, watched another movie until cell phone time. She come back after her cell convo looking like she'd just seen a ghost. She tells me a mutual friend of hers and OM went to OM's commanding officer and spilled her guts. This could be bad news, because OM has a very visible job on post. Needless to say, OM says he plans to bluff his way through any situations and let the chips fall where they may, something my W says she does not really agree with. (Integrity is a big issue in the military, especially in the officer corps...) Early the next day, she caught the train to the airport. She asked me to go to the station and help her out, which I did. She gave me a hug on the train and I left. Later, I got an email from her (she must have sent it from the airport, probably from the freaking cell phone the OM gave her). She said she was sorry I seemed upset that morn (?? I really didn't act that upset??) and that she thought it was good I'd have some time alone. Then, of course, the "you're a better person than me" and "I pray you find someone to make you happy, because I know I haven't" and the "if you need to talk, you are also welcome to call me anytime..." Maybe a she will come to a small amount of her senses while she's home with her parents, but I doubt it. At least I'm pretty sure she's not coming back from FLA with divorce papers in hand. It will be difficult when my D7 gets back, but we still plan to keep everything together for her as long as possible. Sorry for the long rant...the US satellite is on the fritz and I can't understand the French-speaking tv channels!
