I'm a lot more used to posting on sports boards than divorce boards. You are right whatisis (you must have read my first post) this is not the first time we have been in this position. The difference now is that the W choose to end the previous A to work on our sych...she has stated this time that "she just can't do it anymore" and shows no intention of ending the A. As I type, she and the OM are out looking at apartments for him. Based on what his W told me, OM is in classic, flaming MLC "replay" stage. Apparently my W is the replacement W. Seems he canceled a pre-planned trip with his S16 to apartment shop with my W. Ouch and double ouch. As I said...were it not for D7, the W would be gone. But...I could never look my daughter in the eye if I don't do everything possible to save the marriage and the family.