IMINTROUBLE Hey, she contacted you and you talked. She wanted you to send your w away, you said no. End of story. You mentioned a book she might find helpful. You did fine. My point previously was that you don't want to be seen as the one instigating contact. If she calls again, you might want to say that "for both our sakes, it's better that we not discuss this together". I know it's hard to turn someone away but, as you said previously, she has tons of support from the other spouses on base. She wanted something from you that you couldn't give. Hopefully, that's the end of that. Also, I looked back on previous posts, beleieving I'd seen your name before, and found that this is not the first time your w has done this to you. WOW, I'm finding once is enough. My heart goes out to you, man. It must tough to go through this over and over again. P.S. GH is right, stick to one thread so we can keep track of you.