First thing this morning OM’s W calls and asks to talk to me. In a thread below I had pondered about talking to her and turning her on to DB’ers, but after some good advice I decided not to get into that. Now, she calls me. Sorry…but I just can’t turn away someone in pain, so we had a long discussion. Basically, we discussed the sych and I turned her on to Michele’s books and this web site. She says she loves her H and wants to make it work. She wanted me to send my W away in order to break up the PA (we are overseas military, and my W can’t stay if I don’t want her to…). I told her that would only make things worse, and that we had to suck it up and let the A run its course, and we needed to work on ourselves. I also told her that under no uncertain circumstances was she to ever, ever mention that we had talked.
How bad did I screw up??? I know the best thing to do was probably just to stay away, but I couldn’t just shut the door in her face.
