That question coming from you though doesn't fit. You've stated your W was different when you married...that she had desire then.
I have NEVER said (Why are you telling us guys that our being desired is not important?) NEVER not once have I diminished the importance of being desired...we all want to feel desired by our spouse.
What I have done CeMar is tell you that a woman cannot just turn desire on and off for a man like you turn on a light switch. If it's there, then that's great..no problem right? If it's not....then there are other issues that have to be addressed before that switch can be flipped on for her. Whether that is a behavior that her H exhibits, or her making lists of things that have to be done first, FOO issues....whatever it is.
I've NEVER, said that desire is unimportant....but you cannot have that until other things are dealt with (it won't happen.)
That just shows me that you hear what you want to hear CeMar.
You flat-out refuse to see that YOU will not accept a womans love for her H by having sex with him, just because she wants to make him happy (without desiring sex, which is what your W does)...yet you are advising other women to do just that to affect change in their H.
Now, why....if that won't work for YOU, if you refuse to accept that behavior from your W...would that work for other men? What makes you so special in that regard?
