BUT...I think what Lil and I are getting at is this. She WILL have to go through the motions, there will not be desire (for who knows how long, until he makes changes as well).
This is something you yourself have said would be unsatisfactory to you. So you are preaching to other women to do things that you have stated....YOU wouldn't accept from your own LD wife. CeMar, it doesn't make sense for you to be telling women to do these things...when YOU have told us time and time again that you wouldn't accept that exact same behavior from your own wife if she just went through the motions too...and that's exactly what it would be...going through the motions....without desire, for who knows how long (it will depend upon the couple and their reactions to each other)?
It might help if you could explain why you would suggest that another woman take this approach....when it wouldn't be acceptable to you for your own wife to do this? I mean, no offense CeMar...but you have complained endlessly about how unfulfilling sex without desire is for you....so it simply does not make sense to me now that you would tell someone else to take that approach.f
YOU say if she gives her man what he wants sexually...then he will automatically become what she wants (which, still does not apply to all men LD/HD.) If what he wants is "desire"...going through the motions won't achieve this. I could see how that might work if the woman is actually withholding sex as a weapon and does have a SD, but if someone is truly LD...I don't see this approach working. I see it building tons of resentment on both sides.
