Have you completely read the book? It is written SPECIFICALLY for LD women that want to fix their marriages. Dr. Laura just cuts to the chase, she eliminates all the PC stuff and goes right to the stuff that will actually make a difference. Let's face it, there are 4 outcomes to the LD women/HD male problem:
1) Neither changes - Failed marriage. 2) He changes only - Failed Marriage. 3) She changes only - Possible failed marriage if he is still a Neantherdal. 4) She changes/He changes - SUCCESS!!!
We have talked about this before on these boards, that until the LD spouse is fully engaged in fixing the problem, there is NOTHING the HD can do that will save the marriage. Dr. Laura is also saying the same thing, the LD female must be FULLY committed to fixing the problem before it can get better. SHE is the DETERMINING factor, he really is not. What Dr. Laura is saying is that men will change when their needs are met because their needs are PHYSICAL, they are driven SUBCONSIOUSLY, they are ADDICTIVE in nature. However, women are NOT this way, LD women are NOT driven by anything physical, by anything addictive. As she puts it, women have GREAT control over men beacuse of the male sex drive and there is nothing going the other way that is comparable. So in effect, the women has far more power to create change in the other then does the man. Literally, she has the power to cause changes in him that he really can not stop. Their is no such ability the other way.
Heck, even the monitor of these boards admitted on here that all the changes the man is supposed to make is for only one purpose, to encourage the women to then tackle the problem. Us guys are NOT working the problem, our only real input is to hopefully make it worthwhile for the women to take on the issue, to do the REAL problem solving. When she takes on the problem, she in effect will be implementing Dr. Lauras strategy.
What we have all been trying to do is WRITE the book "THe proper care and feeding of wives". The strategy that a HD man can use to change his marriage on his own. Well guess what, there IS no such book, and there never WILL be such a book from Dr. Laura. In her own words, it does not work.
