LOL! Wic, I am a newbie and have come on this site to look for ideas on what drives my wife LD. I feel like you are describing me when you talk about your husband. And in turn, you could be my wife.
Regardless, I can tell you this. Your 10 pounds or even 20 doesn't bother me nor does it on my wife. I love her and only want to ML to her. It is her lack of desire and passion that bother me which also drives the low frequency of ML, imo.
We too only ML 1xweek but also skip weeks. I too have been trying to get her to watch movies, but primarily in a attempt to restore her desire. My logic dictates that if I have an increased desire after watching a movie then maybe she will too. In an attempt to "fix" things, I can only go by what I know and my perspective. But obviously, that is not the way to go.
My guess is this...if you can figure out a way to increase your sexual drive and desire, then the things that worry you about your husband will go away.
But let me know if you figure out a way to increase your drive and desire. I would like to try it on my wife
