Thanks lou. I did take a look at that site, its great.. but I have a feeling my h won't be so inclined. He's tired all the time from work and doesn't want to put much effort into the "emotional stuff" that we really need to work on. I can admit I need to work on the sex stuff, but I doubt he will admit that he needs to work on the emotional end.. meaning the conversation and cuddling time.. which I don't get. The only time I get a conversation with him its about an estimate I am doing for our business or kid related... sorry to whine... Its just getting old...