i can honestly say straying is not a concern... but self esteem and overall viewpoint of what the marriage is, what it should be is what is affected the most in him. he may feel rejection which is why he turns to what he does -- but i can assure you that he is also a bit hurt inside cause he doesn't quite understand where your coming from. he cant figure out why you dont have the same desires/wants. after all, he got this way because of how he feels his love has grown for you -- he would do anything and everything, no questions asked (haha) -- seriously, from an intimate, loving point of view, yet the feeling is it is not mutual (you to him)
like i said, i dont understand your viewpoint. i can only tell you what your H feels, wants, etc cause I am in the same boat... sorry if i say too much, not enough or makes no sense... i can talk about this forever and still be confused by it all - i got some reading to do
