Ok, sorry then to jump on you. I take some of that back, but I still stand by the idea that it SEEMS like you have some expectations about what he SHOULD be doing in light of your becomming a better person and working on the marriage. It very well could be that he got the first message that you sent him, i.e. the marriage sucks, and is a little slower to get this one. Keep posting more, and post the long version if you think it will help. Worrying about people's reading habits never stopped me, lol.
In the meantime, drop your expectations, realize that YOU now understand a lot about what went wrong, and even if you TELL him, he will need to get to that point himself and then decide to work on the M himself, something that I suspect he worked a long time to get over wanting to do.
Keep working on you and realize that you cannot make this go faster.
