PLEASE forgive me for maybe misunderstanding the sitch, but I THINK you said you had an affair less than 9 months ago, right? If that's the case, then you seem to be glossing over that fact pretty easily. When I think of the agony AmyC, HH and others go through in an attempt to win back the love of their LBS, it seems like you don't really see the need for that.
I am not trying to slam you, and if I have it all wrong, please correct me, but you seem to expect him to drop his NEW life, one that YOUR actions (both the affair AND asking him to leave) kick-started, just because now you know what you want? I don't think it works that way.
I DO see signs that he's opening up to you but I think for the process to really move forward, he will probably need a lot more from you, or maybe just more time with you being "better" before he can trust that things will be different.
Like I said, I know you said all the right things, but don't discount the pain he went through when you did what you did. It HASN'T been that long and no matter what he's got going on in his life, the pain is still there and I doubt he is in a real hurry to jump back in to that fire again.
I think you have a GREAT chance to have things work out for you but it will take time and work. It seems like you are willing to give it both but maybe a slight shift in attitude may help.
Amy? Whatcha think, oh sage speaker for the "other side", lol.
