Good comment. I think I am afraid to push on the sex issue. Partly because when I did push in the past, it lead to huge unpleasantness and not any more sex. I took us to two therapists and a workshop, I read the books, I initiated the convos with no results.
Since he is an AOS guy, it would be great if he could see sex as just another AOS. I don't know why he doesn't (although if you met his mom and/or his ex, you probably wouldn't wonder).
And I think also that both bf and I are comfortable with this amount of distance, it's just that I'm aware enough to know that this amount of distance, while comfortable, is not optimum.
And so my sex drive has gone underground because I am motivated to stay in this R for a host of other reasons. I think the PBTS approach would be ideal for us, but so far I haven't done any more than just mention it.
I really don't know what I'm going to do about this, if anything...
