Yes, it is about my inability to stand up for myself. The sex problems are a symptom. If I was married to a HD man things might have gone bad in a different way.
This is so interesting.... you're still making yourself totally responsible for the problems in your M by saying that it's about your wimpiness/refusal to stand up for yourself.
And then you said that if you were with an HD man, you would have found other ways to screw up...
Aren't any of the problems in your marriage, sexual and otherwise, due to your H and his moods, quirks, refusal to take responsibility for himself, pickiness, crankiness, lack of respect for you-- IOW things about HIM that you cannot change entirely apart from his sex drive?
