Quote: I felt like I was a bad person for wanting to divorce him for sexual reasons
Do you agree with me that the core issue is NOT only about sex?
If you're seriously thinking that you will be following through on the D stuff, I would strongly urge you to find yourself a counselor now to help you keep your head clear through this process. It doesn't have to be as expensive as you think it will be. You're getting ready to wade out into some deep waters, and you will need more anchoring than this board can provide...
I'm disturbed by this whole "wimpy" thing... we were talking about respect the other day-- your H's lack of respect for you, or at least, the way he TREATS you with a lack of respect. To call yourself "wimpy" when you're hurt or afraid or confused or simply unwilling to be brutal-- that's YOU showing a lack of respect for YOURSELF.
It's conditioning... you've picked up the bad habit of disrespecting yourself from him.
