Quote: I am really hoping to see your H step up to this agreement. I'll bet it will be harder than he thinks. I'll bet, in fact, the hardest part will be the communicating directly. Does this agreement put him entirely in the driver's seat about sex or can you still negotiate for oral or a hj if he isn't interested? Whatever the agreement are you ok with it? Just wondering. It think it is a good thing to be aware of potential issues when hammering out an agreement. No agreement is perfect the first negotiation. That's for sure.
I totally agree with you. In fact, I think that in a way this agreement is just sort of a way to get to a final equilibrium of sorts. If my H chooses to communicate about why he doesn't want to have sex rather than having sex with me, I will still have to consider my response. For instance, will I be happy with 2 weeks of hearing "I'm not going to initiate sex today because I'm just not in the mood."? Highly doubtful. Pretty much all I've actually agreed to is to not initiate sex myself if my H sticks to this agreement. My H was almost more suggesting than agreeing to the concept of more open communication so I'm fairly hopeful. I think he knows that I am in dead serious end game mode. He has been very attentive and affectionate since we had the discussion and we did have some pretty hot sex this weekend.
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