Quote: I meant make it worse in the sense that it would make her more HD, because of anticipation, variety, not knowing what to expect and the satisfaction women derive from being man handled and opened up. If it would have been vanilla/predictable, it would wear off sooner maybe
Oh, I don't know if that would be true. Vanilla sex in response to my HD might make me more HD because I wanted Triple Chocolate Fudge and all I get is Vanilla.
Quote: I feel ND. I feel exactly the same way about sex/porn/stripclubs, etc. So boring. I think Im broken.
What's a nice boy like you doing in stripclubs? Those girls are just carnival barkers with T&A. I don't think the fact that you are bored with casual sex, porn and stripclubs means that you are "broken". I would say it was more indicative of the fact that you want to be "whole" and have your heart and your cock working in unison again.
Quote: oh yeah. wanted to say, are you holding the BB over your H's head like a club? At his age, or just being him, even if things are excellent between you too, he may not be able to do 8x a week.
No, just the opposite. I pretty much never discuss the BB with him though I really do try and stay on the same page on the BB as in real life in that I try not to just come here and vent about something and then not do anything about it or at least discuss it with my H.
I have to tell you that jokes about me wanting it 8x a week are sort of the opposite of amusing to me. The most I have ever requested of my H is fairly consistent sex around 2x a week with some attention paid to my preferences. He has NEVER met this IMO VERY reasonable demand. I have been consistently monogamous with him for almost 19 years and in that time period:
1) We have had sex more than once on the same day at most half a dozen times.
2) We have had sex more than twice in the same week maybe 10 weeks out of the nearly 1000 we've been together.
3) We have definitely never had sex 5x in the same week and maybe not even 4x. Not even on our honeymoon.
4) For the vast majority of our marriage we had sex less than 2x a month and I had to initiate and/or throw a fit in order to get it that often.
The reason that we have had all sorts of pretty hot, pretty raunchy sex and watched too much porn is that I have constantly been trying to suggest or solicit from him ideas for sexual variety that might appeal to him in order to increase the frequency. I even once suggested to him that I'd be willing to do the kind of strap-on scene that you indicated would be way over your kink line after we saw it being done in an old porn movie from the 70's. (I am divulging this piece of info partially in order to explain that the kinky "line" that my H wanted me to say was MORE kinky than a strap-on scene in my book.) Granted, all of this may have been a big mistake but IMO it was kind of the natural course of events when you have two non-prudish partners one of whom is much more LD than the other. I should add here that most of the preferences for sexual variety that I bring up are dismissed by my H as being "chick-stuff". The main reason that I do consider my H to be a good lover is the same reason he is a good pianist -gifted hands and creative improvisation. I am thoroughly frustrated with him as a lover due to his unwillingness to play at all frequently or in response to my requests or many songs that I request.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
