Corri, I think you are both right and wrong as it concerns LD men.
Once I stopped the henpecking, H did indeed step up to the plate with his desire. I am thrilled to see it. However, the frequency is slipping. It seems that I can either have a horny guy who will ML every 4-5 days or a guy who will perfunctorily do his duty every other day or so. I have chosen--after having tried it both ways, and tried to control the situation in my favor, unfortunately--the former.
In addition to that, I find it increasingly hard to 'act like a girl' in the interim days when he's not 'acting like a boy'. (or insert man/woman in there, whatever) On the On Days when he's horny, he's all man and I'm all woman. On the interim days, we sorta drift. He's not leading, I'm totally d-o-n-e with my leading attempts. So we flounder around until his natural horniness gets the best of him and we start the cycle again.
I don't find it very inspiring but, at the same time, I am so glad, thrilled, elated to be done with the violent ups and downs that I have embraced it anyway.
