Okay... I'm just doing field study here, so don't take me at my word. But I've been doing a LOT of pondering on this issue, and I mean a LOT. So.. take it for what it is worth... try some things out... experiment.
I've been wondering what an LD man and an LD woman might have in common. I can spaak to you from my angle... certanly. From an LD view... my vulnerability is key. My fear. My weaknesses. My williingenss to expose them. I have a hard time doing that with my best friend on the planet, who has known me longer than anyone besides my family members... so.
I'm wondering if an LD man doesn't have issues with his own weaknesses and vulnerability.... so much as he does YOURS. Meaning... most HD women here have no problem saying what they want, when they want it and how they want it. Not a problem for an HD man. No problem whatsoever. He revels in it.
An LD man... different story. He wants to lead... but you already do. He wants to be the aggressor, but you already are. He wants to please you... but you've already mapped it out for him.
Uhm, don't take this wrong... but he's almost already henpecked, kwis? And you are not being a 'girl.' You are not letting him sweep you away. You are not letting him charge in on his white horse and rescue you from your desire.
I know, this seems bass asckwards. But sometimes I think that 'womenn' need to learn how to be girls, and girls need to learn how to be women. And you and I, gilr/women that we are, need to learn when and where to bring each out. kwis? It's like a man and a woman driving in a car together. If lost, a woman will stop almost immediately and ask for directions. A guy just HAS to figure it out on his own. It's no FUN stopping and asking for directions. Ruins the game and the clock monitor on the trip... which he WILL beat the next time. And no, you are NOT stopping to PEE, thank you. You'll mess up my TIME.
