Being previously LD and uncomfortable with my sexuality... I would sometimes try and 'prime the pump,' so to speak. I would venture out and look at this or this other thing, for ideas, for stretching purposes... and if I got BUSTED doing that!? Yikes.
Next time you catch your H doing that... and I think your response was spot on... let him go. Let him know you know... but don't really say anything. You don't really need to know what it means... unless he starts going underground... you have to watch that... but on his own time... he is trying to stretch himself, at least, I think. Baby stpes, honey, baby steps. Maybe one time you can ask him if you can look with him, kwis? Keep it almost clinical if you do.... let him know what interests you, what doesn't... but keep it almost clinical so he doesn't feel uncomfortable.
That's my take. I'd take it as a good sign. Don't push, but keep watching. Voyeur that you are.
Sometimes, having been an LD... I think that you HD women need to back off just a bit. A woman will ALWAYS lead in the bedroom. Meaning... she will indicate readiness. That doesn't mean she will be the agressor... but it will mean that she tells her man she is ready.
For an LD guy, you need to give him room to summon his courage, and you need to subtly let him step up to lead. An HD man will do this automatically. It's built into his DNA. But an HD man will KNOW when his woman wants it.
Now... you can suggest things... you certainly can tell him what you like... but you have GOT to let him lead. Period. If you don't... he'lll uhm... deflate. kwis? Or he just won't go there.
The dif that I have noticed about say you and me is.... you have no doubt what you want and how you want it. You can express it, in very blunt terms. Me... not so easy. I know what I want, and how I want it done... I struggle against how vulnerable that makes me to a man by verbalizing it.
Do you see? Somewhere between you and me is the key. We just have to figure it out.
