Confronted OW. HELP...Any going back?

[notmars]

After a year apart, my ex started to contact me. After many IM convos..I admitted I still had feelings for him. He continued to contact me...but said he was with someone but he DID not love her. Then he pursued, pursued, pursued me. telling me he thought he saw me everywhere, missed me, never stopped loving me. He wanted to Web cam w/me, showed me he'd saved all the photos of my from our vacations, etc. So, I ASSUMED he'd broken up with her. Finally one day he came to my home and said he wanted to try again. But that he needed to talk to her first and that would take time. I emailed him and said I understood. Then he e'd back and said it would take QUITE SOME TIME. Well that made me blow my cork. I called him. She was there..he would not talk. I said I wanted to talk face to face by end of week. We did that..he said he did not want 'GUN TO HIS HEAD.' I agreed that was not good so we should come to a MUTUAL decision that would work for him. We agreed he would talk to her the next week. Next week came and went. Nothing.

I went to his condo..saw her purse/shoes on floor. He did not answer door so I left. As I was walking to car he called and said he would meet me in local coffee shop. I went, we talked, he was defensive. I said 'you are a man of honor and did not keep your promise..and got up to leave. He panicked and followed me and said 'Oh so you are LEAVING?'

I went to his condo, walked in the door (he followed) and told other women we needed to talk. And either (my ex) could tell her what had been going on for one plus months or I could. He gave her a watered down version of our 'reconnection'..stating this time that he did NOT love me..but was 'considering' reconcilliation we me. I started to laugh. He told me to leave, but she wanted to talk w/me privately..so we did.

I know I went to far, but I have BOUNDARIES and HE CROSSED THEM. Nobody 'held a gun to his head.' He said in his emails that he did not want to seem like a loser scumbag and she was 'nice' and he did not want to hurt her. I ALSO found out she is a good friend of one of his friends..so..since he is ALL about appearances, that was obviously an issue for him.

WHAT DO I DO NOW? I have not contacted him since. I have NO regrets about telling her as essentially he was stringing us both along. Have I blown it? I know he still cares (or did before my 'encounter' but am sure he's fuming now. Again tho, it needed to be done. He was being a coward and I felt he needed some 'tough love.' Having said that, I know men don't like to have their egos bruised.