Quote: (Why is this such a problem? I dont get it. What I do get, and what I want to briefly mention again is that for a woman to have a deep sense of ....contentment? in her R, the mans frame has to be stronger.)
I think this is a good analogy if you are using "frame" in the sense it is used in dancing. In this sense, the stronger the man's frame, the more freedom his female partner has in her own movements. She is free to express herself and feels more secure if she's not worried that her male partner is going to let her fall.
For instance, I would be much more inclined to go along with my H's 5 year plan for our marriage rather than my own if I had a clear sense of what his 5 year plan might be. It freaks me out to follow his lead when I don't have any sense where he's going or even what dance we're attempting. I would be positively delighted if he were to say something with conviction like "I want to move to Nevada and start a cactus farm.".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
