IMINTROUBLE I know it's real tempting to try and fix the OM's m. Sometimes I'm tempted to contact the OP my w is involved with, but I come to my senses! Please, please, please don't spend endless amounts of time trying to analyze why your w is who she is. That's her job. Trust me, when you hand her your "diagnosis" it will get stuffed right back in your face. It's not welcomed. The next three weeks is a time for you to start to GAL, I know it's hard but it works. I have worked my ass off to be as happy as I can be in this sitch. In a way this has been a blessing to me!!! I am a much fuller, stronger and, yes, healthier person, physically and mentally, then I was before. Maybe I should thank her! Definately, use DB to strategize. I'm assuming you are a soldier, set up your battle plan!This is the fight of your life. But, stop trying to take care of her (I, too, have to fight that urge). I am also on my own for three weeks. It's like I died and went to heaven!I am actually enjoying my time away from the sitch (that's how I get to post so much these days). Just remember we can't control what another does, feels or says and that is pretty damn maddening at times especially when you see your partner making stupid, stupid moves that tear both your worlds apart. Retreat? No way. Just make a smart battle plan. Take care of yourself.
