It is just hard to watch the whole thing play out. I read "Divorce Remedy". My W grew up w/ an alcoholic mother (not violent, just passive agressive), and I really think she has some codependency tendencies and tends to play the "rescuer". The OM's W is acting crazy, dragging the kids into it, and generally doing everything she shouldn't. I guess I'll have to just sit here and bide time. Maybe when the W goes back to the US and is around her support network she'll come out of it a little bit, but I doubt it. Hotmail traffic will probably double from 30 Jul-17 Aug.