And my wife knows it. This guy is in a classic MLC. He's 43, coming to the end of a military career, unhappy with his marriage, and he just lost a father. Unfortunately, this whole thing is taking place within a small, overseas military community...and everybody knows everybody else's business. My W doesn't have any close friends here (only been here about 10 months). The local wives group is closing ranks around the other S, so my W is the odd jezebel out. We went to church today for the first time in years, and she even go some nasty looks there. My W and I have always been like best friends...which makes this even tougher. I sounds like as long as I can stand it, talking on this subject is OK. We'll see...