What? No comments about OM talking to me??!

Hmmm. Things just keep getting more and more interesting!

So after OM and I talk last week I got to thinking that I had some questions for him... Lo and behold I run into him Mon while shopping. He looks up sees me and acts like I'm his long lost buddy (wth?) Guess getting his conscience cleared made everything OK in his mind. Whatever.
So I said I wanted to talk some more and he offered to do it right then, but I had an appt cross town soon.
So this morning at work we got to talking... I asked him why XW said she wanted a Div. HE said that SHE said something about this that and the other... Well, I told him the WHOLE story, about how she urged me to go to Paris, to not come home when her brother was ill, how she PUSHED me away... He hadn't heard that!
He also could not believe that she was deluding herself that she "didn't have an affair". He is finally seeing there is a big difference between what she was telling him at first and what really is and what played out between them. I think he realizes things are really screwed up in her head.
Said he admires the fact that I tried very hard to work things out. yadayadayada. Not going to change anything but I'm feeling a little less guilty about things. I realize now this is 95% HER issues that she doesn't want to deal w/.
Esp. after talking w/ one of HER friends that has made the effort to email me. We spoke in person this week for the first time in a couple of years (!) This poor woman had no clue what had happened and XW had pretty much stopped emailing her and didn't stay in touch. And she had asked BIL/SIL what the hell happened and they told her that XW doesn't really talk to them. So this gal was really concerned. Couldn't believe the stuff I was telling her but was real supportive.
So I guess the point of all this is I'm getting to the place where I think I really can just say TO HELL W/ YOU.... I've done my best, I would like to think I wouldn't give up on someone if they were physically ill, but she has made CHOICES that aren't good.

I think that I don't want to deal w/ XW anymore, least not unless she undergoes some real change and I don't see that happening. EVER. Oh and Well.

Hellbent...