Hi David; when my husband left me one year ago, he said he needed time and space and that he may move back, if given a chance to think. I gave him a lot of space and didn't contact him except for one trip to the lawyers so I could refinance my mortgage. After showing no signs of wanting counselling or reconciliation, for a period of six months, I insisted he move his stuff out. For my own dignity and self-respect, I felt six months was PLENTY time to think and I don't regret forcing him to move his stuff out one bit.
Sometimes people don't want the stuff out because they might think if it's in the house, the ex will come back. I don't think that's true. I think if they want to come back they will come back for YOU, not for the stuff they left in the house. And if they don't come back, cut 'em loose is what I say. Good luck.
